“I visited Mum on Tuesday and I was really warmed to see your activities lady had a plastic envelope specifically tailored for Mum with pictures of Royal Ascot, ladies in their hats, the Queen and various pictures of different race horses, and poems of racing. I just wanted to show my appreciation . Her passion and love was and IS horse racing – she was a member of the Royal Ascot racing club (as you know) and to show her any recognition of those days is marvellous. She loves poetry too. Thank you all for caring for her so beautifully. She always looks clean, tidy, pretty and happy when I visit her. It’s lovely that you are stimulating her as we never really know do we what goes on in her head and how much she actually does understand but can’t communicate?

She also has a huge love of tennis – was Tim Henman, then moved on to Andy Murray!
I am sure she would love it if you could put the telly on for her when Royal Ascot starts next Tuesday and indeed I think Queens tennis is on next week too. I know she zones in and out but all this stimulation and nostalgia I feel will benefit her. And of course Wimbledon tennis. Please keep playing the background music when she is in your main sitting room. She loves singing and music . Also church was a big thing for her but I appreciate you cannot take her to the church services but church was a great comfort to her.

To summarise – keep doing what you are doing! We are so relieved that Mum is in such a compassionate and caring home. We don’t show our gratitude enough but it enables us as sad as it is with Mum’s dementia to carry on with our day to day family lives without worrying about her constantly . And that is what Mum would have wanted. She ALWAYS said our kids and lives must come first.

Thank you all for caring for mum so well.”